How can we Build Good Relationships Between Siblings

What we learn is that if children themselves are given the opportunity to relate without us parents being judges all the time, they can only build good relationships.

As parents, we tend to have different thoughts when we decide to increase the number of children in the family. Thinking that now our child, or children, are going to find their little one, and find a partner to play with. Will they be friends and brothers to rely on? Will they love each other?

the truth is that children born in the same family, especially those who follow each other, are a big challenge in upbringing because they often have conflicts here and there, while what they are fighting for is often not seen or understood.

for example, children may fight over small things that they like, or desire, such as a toy that each child wants to use, this can lead to conflict between them. they can compete loudly so that each can own the device, or use it, longer than the other.

They may try to impress, or persuade, a parent or guardian to give them priority by claiming that they deserve it more, or that they need it more than their younger sibling.

Education experts believe that if children are given a chance without parents interfering, they can build respect, love, trust and depend on each other as siblings. For example, when you see an older child pushing him, or taking something away from his younger child, don't be quick to rebuke him.

give him the opportunity to learn and care for his younger brother who will often raise his voice to want you to know if he is being bullied. In this way, brother or sister, someone will have to caress their younger brother and a few moments later they will laugh together. Here they build relationships and cooperation.

Another example is as soon as you have a younger person, many children develop 'hate' because suddenly the love of the parents is transferred to the younger one. A good way is to involve the child from pregnancy by telling him that you all expect to see the arrival of his little one.

as soon as he is born, do part of the upbringing by giving him small tasks, while using integrated statements, such as, our child is crying, he will want to suck, or your little one is crying, he will want to suck, or you should be the protector of our child, or your little one, and so on.

this will make the older child feel part of the family and that this is his brother and one of the family members.

Another opportunity is when they reach school age. Often, the eldest learns to read before his younger brother. give a brother, or sister, the opportunity to be a teacher of your partner by teaching him how to hold a pen, read stories to him and even sing school songs together.

This way you teach them to depend on each other and strengthen their relationship as a person with his younger brother.

as well, you can create an environment for them to cooperate in work by arranging for them to clean, wash, wash dishes, and so on, together. In this way they will learn to perform tasks together as a family.

although they will continue to show irritation like when others are working, this exercise will also give you the opportunity to get information on how they are performing their duties so that you can stop them and press them on the dependence at work.

If children grow up depending on each other, even the challenges between them and their friends will be solved many times and peacefully without even you being involved.

also, by letting children learn to manage their own conflict resolution, we give them the opportunity to learn to express themselves, listen, and respect the opinions and feelings of others. In this way, you prepare serious human beings with great ability to solve their own problems and in cooperation.

we will be wrong if we believe that after doing these things then the children will love each other.despite our efforts to educate them and help them build good relationships, children will continue to face challenges and conflicts here and there such as fighting, quarreling, and so on, but the love between them will still be built.

Remember that raising a family is a long journey. what we learn here is that even if the children themselves are given the opportunity to relate without us parents being judges all the time, they can only build good relationships.

Again by doing this it will give even you the parent a chance to breathe from your seat of decision.